CHARGE:

OPTION #1: Challenging Adventure
Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure of human relationships. No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that – through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, helping and supporting and believing in each other; through tenderness and laughter; through learning to forgive, learning to appreciate your differences, and by learning to make the important things matter, and to let go of the rest. What this ceremony can do is to witness and affirm the choice you make to stand together as lifemates and partners.


OPTION #2: Marriage is
The Ceremony of marriage in which you come to be united is one of the first and oldest ceremonies in all the world. Marriage is a gift in that we give ourselves totally to one another. I believe that marriage is a gift given to comfort the sorrows of life and to magnify life’s joys

Marriage is the clasping of hands, the blending of two hearts, the union of two lives into one and your marriage must stand, not by the authority of the state, nor by the seal on your wedding certificate, but by the strength and power of the faith and love you have in one another


OPTION #3: Enduring Commitment
_ _ _ _ _ and ________, you have come together in the hope that the love, which has brought you to this union, may touch the lives of all of us here today. The vows of marriage represent a deep and enduring commitment of love, respect, and friendship for one another.


OPTION #4: Marriage and Love
We live in a world of joy and fear, and we search for meaning and strength in the seeming disorder. We discover the truest guideline to our quest when we realize love in all its magnitudes. Love is the eternal force of life. Love is the force that allows us to overcome all obstacles. May you always remember to give love freely and unconditionally from your heart. Preserve always yourself, your integrity, and your individuality; yet give of yourselves freely to each other.


OPTION #5: A Union
We call marriages “unions”, not because some legal agreement is being entered into, but because two hearts are being molded together. So you share your joys and hope as well as your sorrows and despairs. It’s a molding of two hearts that will only remain strong by staying vulnerable, pure, and devoted.


OPTION#6: Spiritual union
_ _ _ _ _ & ________, true marriage is the holiest of all earthly unions. It is to be entered into reverently, consciously and with full understanding of its significance. To be complete, marriage must be spiritual as well as an earthly estate. When it is Spiritual in thought, purpose, plan and action, it becomes the harmonious, peaceful and happy union for man and woman.


OPTION #7: One life
The state of matrimony is true marriage only when it is based upon a deep, inner communion of two souls who find completion, each in the other. Today, your separate lives, each with your individual memories, desires and hopes, merge into one life - a new dimension.


OPTION #8: Art of Marriage
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage the little things are the big things.

Such a love requires that you be totally honest with yourself and your mate, that you ask for what you want, take action even though you are afraid, share your feelings and listen but leave your partner free to be who they really are. In other words, always love your partner for who they are, not for who you think they should be.

Always remember, "Relationships are something that must be worked on all the time, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed. Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place."

We as your friends gathered here today, accept for you a love that brings out your magnificence, a love that gives you the courage to stand apart and the willingness to stand together. When times call for you to be apart, may you always return to your togetherness in the same spirit of love that you are feeling in this moment.

Most of all, we want that, at the end of your lives on this planet, you will look into each others eyes and be able to say: "Because you have loved me, you have given me a faith in myself, and because I have faith in myself, I have loved my fellow man. My life with you has been complete."


OPTION #9: Growing Relationship
_ _ _ _ _ & ________, this love that was birthed from a friendship and that has grown to what is before us today, has not reached it’s final form. Your love must continue to be molded, shaped, and built upon as you share your lives with each other in marriage. Your marriage is intended to join you for life in a relationship so intimate that it will change your whole being. It offers you the hope, and indeed the promise, of a love that is true and mature. To nurture this thriving love you must commit yourselves to remain vulnerable, pure and devoted to each other


OPTION #10: Serious Decision
_ _ _ _ _ & ________, you have made a very serious and important decision in choosing to marry each other today. You are entering into a sacred bond as life partners. The quality of your marriage will reflect what you put into nurturing this relationship. You have the opportunity to go forward from this day to create a faithful, kind, and tender relationship.

This is a blessed day for you, _ _ _ _ _ & ________. It is up to you to keep the blessings flowing each and every day of your lives together. We wish for you the wisdom, compassion, and constancy to create a beautiful marriage in which you can both grow in love.


OPTION #11: Marriage Covenant
_ _ _ _ _ & ________, the covenant which you are about to make with each other is meant to be a beautiful and sacred expression of your love for each other. As you pledge your vows to each other, and as you commit your lives to each other, we ask that you do so in all seriousness, and yet with a deep sense of joy; with the deep conviction that you are committing yourselves to a dynamic growing relationship of trust, mutual support, and caring love.


OPTIONS #12: Hand in Hand
Hand in Hand you enter marriage, hand in hand you step out in faith. The hand you freely give to each other, is both the strongest and the most tender part of your body. In the years ahead you will need both strength and tenderness. Be firm in your commitment. Don't let your grip become weak. And yet, be flexible as you go through change. Don't let your hold become intolerable. Strength and tenderness, firm commitment and flexibility, of such is a marriage made, hand in hand.

Also remember that you don't walk this path alone. Don't be afraid to reach out to others when together you face difficulty. Other hands are there: friends, family, and the church. To accept an outreached hand is not an admission of failure, but an act of faith. For behind us, underneath us, around us all, are the outstretched arms of the Lord. It is into his hand, the hands of God in Jesus Christ, that, above all else, we commit this union of husband and wife. Amen


OPTION #13: Gift from God
Marriage is a gift from God, a miracle. It is an opportunity to feel the joy of taking care of someone who takes care of you, to be challenged towards growth yet gently nurtured, to love deeply and receive it in return.

It is about trust, friendship and having a partner to share all life has to offer. It is a commitment to participate in a process of mutual evolution, understanding and forgiveness. It is indeed a sacred union to be treated with reverence.

May you both create, with God, a piece of heaven on earth.


OPTION #14: Love is...
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams.

Without love, we merely exist. With love, we truly begin to live! For love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely place. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who truly love.

We are together as friends, relatives and family to mark the end of one beginning and to recognize officially a new beginning which for _ _ _ _ _ & ________ serves as a public affirmation of their friendship and their love.


OPTION #15: Marriage based on
_ _ _ _ _ & ________, you have come to love each other deeply and sincerely. That love has given you the desire to unite in marriage and to establish a home together. In this ceremony you are dedicating yourselves to give happiness and well-being, each to the other. Your marriage is an act of faith. It must not be based on the vain hope of what the other will do or will not do, might become or might not become. It must be based on the firm belief in your own individual worth, and in the individual worth of the other. Your pledge today is an expression of your devotion. The words spoken in this ceremony will validate your marriage only if your love and commitment to one another are strong enough to sustain it


OPTION #16: Progressiveness of Love
Someone once said: The most wonderful of all things in life, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It's a Divine destiny."

PURPOSE
In the “CHARGE” Section, the officiant addresses the bride and groom about marriage or how to maintain a strong relationship. If there are children involved then the officiant may talk about how their relationship affects their children.

PLACEMENT
Generally this section occurs after the OPENING REMARKS. It never takes place after the VOWS, so keep it in the first part of the ceremony